Escape vs. Evolution of Better Relationships

"I wanted to escape."  The hosts explore emotional stimuli in relationships, finding ways to navigate to personal solutions through self awareness, the acceptance of  true spiritual perspective for inner healing. They offer personal experiences as examples and how they grew through those experiences. They also discuss how unresolved issues can re surface in new relationships and emphasize the need for self-awareness of thought patterns, self respect, clear boundaries, and forgiveness.  The only way to escape is to elevate one's perspective, to move up!

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Chapters

• 0:00 Navigating Emotional Stimuli and Relationships
• 5:21 Understanding Personal Growth Through Self Awareness
• 10:30 A Spiritual Perspective on Relationships
• 15:40 Healing and Acceptance in Relationships

Transcript

TNT SpiritWorks (00:01)
You know, sometimes I've been in situations that I wanted to escape. In other words, I wanted to say leave home, or I wanted to get out of a relationship or leave a job. Because there were people around me in those situations that really stimulated me. And we kind of talked about that in a recent episode as well, you know. But ⁓ what I want to say is, is if I get stimulated,

And I leave that situation over time. find somebody to recreate it until until I learned to just accept where other people are at. So, you know, it can even be as you know, like, Jesus, when they pass on, know, then I won't have this worry or if this happens, it'll all be different. But until I sort of work with it and heal the concepts within me that really, you know, stimulate me.

I'm going to find somebody else to play the game with it's called the grasses greener Well, that's another way of the spiritual grasses greener the spiritual grasses greener. Yeah, so it's interesting that this topics coming up today because I'm having a lot of I'm going through a lot of things with some of the souls that I brought through and they're the inability to not connect with with me and communicate so

One of the souls that brought me through after the divorce in 2017 was telling people that I was dead. Yeah, I was gone. I was dead. You know, the person that's my mom was dead. And so it's interesting because when I heard that I was like, wow, that's quite interesting because like you're saying, I recognize that if we have issues with one another, if we have conflict or ⁓

things that we've not resolved. Whenever I go, whatever that time is, if she hasn't resolved that with me, and even might be before I go, she's gonna find someone else that's gonna be playing out the same things that she has got going on that need healing. Well, you know, especially when it comes to our parents, I found like, for example, my dad could say things to me that really would stimulate me and throw me off my pivot. And what I mean by that is ⁓

I would just start feeling I was feeling really good. And then all of a sudden, you know, my bubbles burst, or, you know, I find that for the next couple of days, I'm not I can't, you know, get back into that, that energy, you know, of being positive and relaxed and, and feeling confident and that sort of thing. And they know they didn't mean to do it. But sometimes, you know, they're so sensitive, they just mouth confusion or, know, whatever they're working on within

internally, they'll, you know, express to ourselves. And ⁓ to make a long story short, you know, leaving home or, know, moving to a different continent didn't necessarily help because there'd be people I'd end up working with that would sort of stimulate me in the same area. And even to this day, there's ⁓ a style, I'll say a person that I work with quite consistently.

they have a style of energy that reminds me of my dad, you know, and it does can kind of, you know, my button, so to speak. So, ⁓ and my dad has passed on. So you know, it wasn't my dad, it was a state of consciousness that, that kind of stimulates me or a habit that I have a bit of, which is why it stimulates me. So until I start taking a look at

my habits and attitudes, my concepts, and begin to replace them with more of that acceptance, you know, and, and another area is just having clear boundaries, you know, but we, we talk about being loving and kind and spiritual, you know, awareness programs and, tuning into the love vibration and the love energy. But that also involves being clear, factual and having boundaries with people, you know, so that

You know, my rights begin where your rights end and your rights end begin where my rights end. Yeah. And I think I want to go there around the feeling, love, joy, peace and all that stuff that's always affiliated with, you know, the spiritual, the metaphysical and we want to go, we want to ascend. We want to. And, you know, that's a that's that's great. But that's a crock of shit, too, because we have things that we have to move through while we're here. And

Feeling I'm not you laugh, but I'm telling you like, you know recently one of my daughters had baby and I haven't seen it yet and it's been several weeks now and then she's cut me off and cut cut the grandmother off my mom often and ⁓ It broke my heart and so I had to feel that pain and go into that and express it in the way I needed to express it to to have a whole new layer and understanding of Why did I create this?

situation for myself at this time in my life. And it's interesting because the ⁓ the insights I got from spirit was that I don't need any distractions right now. I was like distractions. Holy crap, because, you know, there's a lot of things going on. I'm moving through a lot of stuff, but I was like, Wow, okay. So that gave me a bit of solace in my heart, but still it hurts. Yeah. Well, I know you don't you don't move through things the same way that I do, Tom, because you're not me.

Right, well, ⁓ different things stimulate me and different things. I have my areas, you know, so that's a...

Well, what would I like about what I observe in you, you know, and what I think you're a great example of is someone that, you know, you do, you feel, you discern and you act and you have emotions. The great thing about you is you don't stay there for very long. You're not like this for the next week, depressed or unhappy about something. You sort of move through it in like 10, 15 minutes at the most.

You have a couple hours, but not days. Yeah, not because that one day really affected me big time. Yeah, the day that I realized that I am cut off from everything. And so I'm like, well, and I went through the, you know, the why wise has happened to me. What's going on? That's when I was able to thankfully work with my guidance, which we do talk about a lot, you know, working with that. We all have a personal team of support that we brought in with us. And so

you know, asking a question and even in a state of my heart was broken open and I was in tears and I was, know, in a, you know, in a, little ball of mess, I'll say I was still able to get that real clear. I need no distractions right now. And I was like, Whoa. so what did that feel like? Well, for me, it, felt, it felt supportive and it felt like I had, it felt like I had clarity in my direction. So how does that feel?

Oh, that feels, um, it feels, it feels, I don't know how to say this, word good, but it feels, well, okay. So there you go. You don't want to say it feels good. It does feel good, right? Yeah, I did feel good. Yeah. So that's, but I was in my little pity party for a while. Okay. So then you have a concept. It's not supposed to feel good. That my, what I came to do is important. And of course you've reached out and you've, know,

looked at making any amends, you're willing to accept any aspect of accountability you have for how you've attracted it or what you stimulated in another and, ⁓ and released it. So, you know, that's the key. think what strikes me about parenting is that it's different than we think sometimes and there's great things to it. There's times to love it and enjoy it. And, know, most of us really enjoy it, you know, at different times and then being a grandparent eventually.

you really enjoy it. But why, you know, it'll keep coming up until I guess for me, until I acknowledge, you know, I feel good about having no distractions right now. That's a shame we could fit it in. But you know what, what I'm really here to do is I'm on a mission, you know, I've got my, for me, it's to be happy and free. So if it doesn't, if I'm feeling somehow

held back because something's not happening that I was hoping or I have a concept I'm supposed to be enjoying, then I have to, I think sometimes we have these experiences, like what's on my mind about it is that we have ideas and concepts rather about what we're supposed to be doing as parents or in certain relationships, not just being a parent is a biggie, right? Like it's a big relationship. ⁓

husband or wife or being a business partner, or there's other types of relationships. But what is really my true spiritual purpose? Because I'm, if you if I'm really tuned into the feeling of, you know, we're all one, there is no separation. We're all like the drops in the ocean, we're all, you know, spirit, it came from spirit, and we will return to spirit. And what do feel about that?

Well, I feel that that is what's given me in my heart the most comfort. So I feel comforted by knowing that I'm in the situations and the experiences that I'm having for myself right now are perfect for what I've come to do. And so being able to recognize that really supports me for the next one that's coming.

the next one that's coming. It's like, I feel like I'm actually building a spiritual muscle around how to work with other people, especially when other, you know, and meet people where they're at. Cause like you said, I mean, I've in this situation, I've reached out, I've written a letter of forgiveness and acceptance and you know, I've done my part. And so the other soul has to do their part. And if not, then I have to know that I've done what I need to do. And I actually feel

very comforted in my heart by saying that because the fact that I recognize, like you're saying, like we're all here. Matter of fact, it's funny because even this morning I was tuning into it a bit and getting some insights around the situation. I picked up the feeling that when I pass and when I regroup with my guidance, the things I've experienced this lifetime that is going to be like this moment is going to be like, ⁓

Okay, that happened. Like it was it's not as big of a deal as it is being here in this physical body in this realm at this moment. And so that also gave me comfort. Yeah, and the only way I'm going to know, I found what my direction is in these situations. And what my opportunity is, is to tune into my feelings. But then I have to accept that. And I know that ⁓

It happens to me too, where I think I've kind of mastered something. I'm in my feelings about it. And then whammo, I get stimulated again from a kind of a different direction or a different angle. I go, that's kind of still there. And then what are the thoughts I start having around that time? What was I thinking? And then of course, sometimes you can attract energy. You can attract souls that are longing for relationships.

things that don't even exist because they're on the other side. You you can, you pick up on the vibration, you know, it's a father's day today as we're recording this episode. And there's probably a lot of folks out there missing each other and fathers missing sons and sons missing fathers and daughters missing fathers and you know, vice versa. So it's in the air. And if I'm kind of tuned into that, ⁓

You know, I'm going to pick up on it. Really, what I'm saying is, is our friend Tiger always quotes me on this is that don't expect your environment. I can't expect. I can't expect my environment to reinforce anything that I'm feeling because the game in society will be, ⁓ poor Teresa. ⁓ this or I should feel guilty because you know, I must not have been a good mother or

whatever little thoughts that allow, know, until you regroup that. And the truth is we know like everybody's doing the best they know how, even the person you're talking about is just doing the best they can at this time. So it's only through working with spirit and really tuning into my true feelings, getting back to that bigger picture that this is life is a blink of an eye in the time span of eternity.

And I'll throw another one at you. How many thousands of daughters have you had over lifetimes? Probably a lot. Yeah. Or sons or. But I like the fact that you brought about, you know, like, well, society and what do we, expectations of situations. So I know right now, and I was telling you this morning that on like on social media, everyone that.

the kid, the, my, the daughter's ages right now, they're all having children or they're having their second child. And so I'm seeing the moms holding the babies and being grandparents. And, and so it's, and those to me are really ways to access how I can heal deeper, how I can work with my energy to keep my energy and my pivot of what I've come to do, which is not what anyone else has come to do good as I move forward and not

go back into that like you're saying, because when I do tell people what's occurred or what's happened, like, Oh, I'm so sorry. And I'm like, Okay, well, I feel really good about that. And now I'm like, well, shit, should I should I be in a crap place because of that? No. But and I guess that's why it's really important and why we're sharing about understanding again, that spiritual picture of who you are as a soul and that, you know, we're all just interacting with one another in these relationships.

and make and doing the best we can with what we know. Cause then looking back, you know, when I was a mom, yeah, there were times I was crazy. I, you know, not really crazy, but I mean, energetically, I, you know, I'm, I'm sure I put some pressure on the kids about things. little bit of a helicopter mom, maybe I was a helicopter mom. so, know, I look, I don't know. No, you're probably right. Absolutely. And then I look back at those and again, I was like, I was doing the best I could do at this moment. And I think the same as this

you know, the one that just had the baby that she's doing the best she can do with what she's put together in this moment. Yeah. And also the steps I recently was working with my mentor and she said something about how just recognize that people around you have made perhaps have not put together the steps that we've put together in what we're going through right now. And that's really important. That's a big one. That's a I got chills on that one. That's a I'm so glad I'm

reinforcing, I'm highlighting what she just shared there, because that it's so easy, because of our conditioning to beat ourselves up. And, you know, there's people that will never accept that they have a hand in, you know, the situation, you know, like, what's great about you is that you go, Yeah, I, might have stimulated that, you know, I might have, what's my part, I'm happy to

change that and ⁓ or as for forgiveness. Yeah, and or and just and forgive them yourself because you know that when we've shared about forgiveness, you know, lot of it is just so I can move past it. Right? You know, I forgive myself or I forgive others so I can move past the situation and ⁓ beyond about my business and back into you know, the flow of my thrust. Yeah, so in ⁓

in sharing about this, it's really important to know that everyone's got their own journeys and you know, and even the people you might have issues with or ⁓ problems around know that, you know, there might be some resolution that you could work with for yourself and working with your guidance is one way to gain more insights through those hunches impressions and, even just clarity about what's really going on that

you can access for yourself and your growth. Yeah. And when, when I get the feeling, you know, that true feeling and that aha moment, I call it, you know, it's, ⁓ those are the words I use to describe it. But once I feel it, the healing is there. Once I replace that, and we have techniques in, ⁓ some of the workshops and things that, ⁓ we do in the way showers college.

And we've got some free videos to introduce you to what we offer and what we talk about, and also some just great down to earth insights in the links below. But they help release that energy because this could be something you've held onto for lifetimes, somehow the situation makes you doubt your worth or your...

self-accept, or, know, there's something there, right? And it gets re-stimulated. So really, I mean, I observe you and you're pretty balanced in this. It's only every once in a while. Yeah, when another layer comes up. kind of comes up. And, you know, you do have a very detached concern and love and accept people where they're at. It's not hard for you to do. That's what you do. So...

⁓ Anyway, you know, there are solutions. I think we're talking about this because it's ⁓ one of those days, like I said, it's Father's Day here in the States, and it's a different time in Australia and New Zealand, it's back in September, but there's probably lots of folks who are going, gee, I wish it was a little better, or where are my kids, or what went wrong? Or I missed my dad, or whatever things are going on. Yeah, so.

it's it's okay to just recognize it. The main thing with emotions is not to just push them down, but allow yourself to express them in a constructive way, and then work with your guidance and your own inner wisdom to get back to the bigger picture and healing. And what's funny is, is once you kind of release all that, it'll all end up settling itself, the vibration will go out. And ⁓ so there must ⁓

Think of, think of the opportunity you're giving right now, like the great opportunity that you two have magnetized yourselves to each other to go through this experience. And if you come through it from a spiritual perspective, rather than a religious perspective or dogmatic perspective or expectations, then wow, now you've uplifted that whole opportunity. It's now worth a million dollars kind of a thing. There you go.

So how about that? So we hope that this episode of enthusiastically spiritual may give you a little bit to chew on in regards to your relationships with others and how the part you play and the part they play and in healing both of them. good. All right. So until next week, remember that life is too short to not be enthusiastic about your unique journey.