Conquering Your Fears with Odille Remmert

Do you struggle with fear and anxiety? If you’re like most people, especially after the past few turbulent years, the answer is yes.  I have good news though. It is possible to OVERCOME your fears and anxiety. Tune in as I talk with mindset coach Odille Remmert about how to not only rewire the brain but rewrite your subconscious memories. We will discuss all this plus the power of unconditional love, the 3 pillars of the Remmert Method, and how to grow your positive thoughts like a muscle. 

Odille Remmert is a mindset coach specializing in emotions and the subconscious. Combined with her husband Steve’s master's degree in psychotherapy and her knowledge of training in neuroscience they created the Remmert Method. Together, they empower others to create deep and permanent life change through memory transformation.

3 Key takeaways from Odille’s episode include: 

• Negative thoughts trigger stress chemicals. Positive thoughts trigger positive chemicals. Stress chemicals have a stronger response in your body than positive chemicals and can build up over time. 
• There are two main parts of the brain related to survival. Immediate survival (fright or flight) and long-term survival (connection with others, altruism, kindness). When a person is feeling safe and loved, the natural instinct is to reach out and help others. When someone cannot reach to help others, that means the unconscious part of their brain is in survival mode, often stemming from their childhood experiences.
• Learning to rewire your brain is like learning to drive. Start with learning to control your brain and body. 

Connect with Odille Remmert:

• LinkedIn = https://www.linkedin.com/in/odille-remmert/
• Website = https://www.theremmertmethod.com/
• Free E-Book on the Remmert Method = https://www.theremmertmethod.com/podcastgift.html
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Transcript

He's imagining loving something that they're frightened off or that they don't want you know, so love your empty bank account, for example, sounds completely unreasonable and counterintuitive, but the way I describe it is, rather than an emotional idea of love, it's shining light into darkness. So if you think of the thing you don't want or the thing you're worried about or frightened of, or the person who's negative or that kind of thing as darkness, what you want to do is fill yourself with light first and then shine light into darkness. And it feels like unconditional love. So you'll know you're tuned in when when you feel that feeling of I love this thing no matter what. 

00:42 

Whether you are a seasoned spiritual seeker, or just starting out on your spiritual path. This podcast has something for everyone. The mission is to inspire enthusiasm for the spiritual part of your journey through unique perspectives around mind, body and spirit. Join me and other enthusiastic souls as we share weekly episodes of how amazing life is when you embrace the spiritual parts of your journey. This and all episodes can be found on my website, TNT spirit works.com. And if you'd like to watch the episodes, please check out TNT Spirit works YouTube channel. So grab your favorite drink, sit back and relax because another enthusiastic episode starts now. My guest this week is here to give us some insight and support through neuroscience to get the life you want by changing what happened to you in your childhood. Her name is Odile remmert, and she is a mindset coach specializing in emotions and the subconscious. She struggled with anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation and debilitating patterns. Combined with her husband, Steve's master's degree in psychotherapy, and her knowledge of training in neuroscience, they created the remmert method. Together, they empower others to create deep and permanent life change through memory transformation. Welcome, Odile. 

02:04 

Thank you so much, Theresa. It's such a pleasure to be here. I'm so looking forward to this conversation.

02:09 

And I am too I am too. And the first thing I like to ask my guests is what makes you enthusiastic about neuroscience and helping others change their negative childhood memories? 

02:19 

Thank you for the question. Um, well, I spent my entire life up until I was 5152. Trying to fix myself. And I used you know, I used everything I came across that I was willing to put in the work of only I knew what that was, and I tried so many things. And it kept feeling like there was something holding me back something blocking me some kind of unconscious thing that I didn't know what it was. And as I found out more about the brain, I realized how powerful the knowledge is when you know, how it you know, the biology of how it works, and how empowering that is. And so I became more and more enthusiastic and passionate about it about finding out more about, you know, deeper diving deeper into it. And so I learned more and more of the neuroscience as it pertained to brain chemistry, and the way we think, and of course, those childhood memories that are that are affecting us all the time. So it freed me, and now I'm very passionate about sharing it with others, so it can empower others as well. 

03:34 

And so coming together with Steve psychotherapy, I mean, you guys are like a beautiful match. I love that. 

03:40 

Thank you. Yes. And so when we first met Steve was doing psyche, psychotherapist. And the more we learned about what we do now, the more we develop these techniques, the more Steve was realizing that what he'd been doing as a psychotherapist wasn't enough. And so, we you know, he slowly started increase SRE introducing more of the techniques we use now, until this is basically all we do. 

04:10 

So, this is it, would you say this is like shadow work? Or is this different than shadow work? 

04:15 

I would say this is different to shadow work, because you are not just making peace with those aspects of yourself, but you are literally changing the original evidence. So the original of the the experiences we have from birth onwards, develop or form the our self image and worldview. So those implicit memories provide the structure of who we are and how the world works. And whether that is you know, the it's the good and the bad, or so called bad you know, there's all aspects of us. And so going back and changing that original evidence should

automatically changes who we are now and how the world works for receive our self image and worldview, which of course automatically changes our perception, our beliefs, our automatic behaviors and habits and patterns. 

05:10 

What was interesting I find ideal is that the more that I interview people and go out in the world, and you know, and talk to people, this is where they're, this is where people need to go. Now, it's not just surface level stuff, it's diving in deeper. And so I like the fact of working with the brain and the chemistry and the science behind it. And it's for me, there's like, there's space for everything, right? There's space for Shadow Work, there's space for transformational psychotherapy, there's space for this. So and it all really boils down when I think about it is about that unconditional love that we have for ourselves. So let's talk a little bit about that, and how this work can really support that. 

05:46 

Yes, with pleasure. So it's my favorite one of my favorite topics. Yeah, so that one of the things I discovered years ago, and this is, in fact, before I found out about the childhood memory stuff, is the power of unconditional love as a state. So you know, people think of unconditional love as an emotion. But it's so much more than that. It's a chemical state. And it's a vibrational state. It's an energetic state. And it's a biological state. And it is, so I, I believe it's the most empowered state you can be in. And so I developed a little technical called the superpower technique, which you learn, which teaches you to develop the ability to first of all love yourself unconditionally, because of course, you can't give what you don't have, and then allowing that to overflow or radiate out to everything, and everyone, and the biggest challenge most people have, is imagining loving something that they're frightened off or that they don't want, you know, so love your empty bank account, for example, sounds completely unreasonable and counterintuitive. But the way I describe it is, rather than an emotional idea of love, it's shining light into darkness. So if you think of the thing you don't want, or the thing you're worried about, or frightened of, or the person who's negative, or that kind of thing as darkness, what you want to do is fill yourself with light first, and then shine light into darkness. And it feels like unconditional love. So you'll know you're tuned in when when you feel that feeling of I love this thing no matter what. 

07:33 

Oh, I like that. Now, this is obviously a real challenge for a lot of people to step into this unconditional love. Because I know you talk a lot in your some in your book about because I have a book here. And there's so much and as you can see, my viewers on YouTube can see but listeners, I've got so many post it notes of just like aha moments and things like down to your beautiful book. But one of the things that you have many things to talk about, it's instinctual priorities. So that instinct of survival and then connection ends, but the survival part can really make us not feel like that love that unconditional love within 

08:05

08:05 

me. Absolutely. And so yeah, one of the things I talked about in the book, as you said is there are two main priorities to the brain, the unconscious part of the brain for survival. So our main priority is survival, but primarily immediate survival, which means right now am I going to, you know, survive this animal attacking me or not. And so that's the kind of emergency state and that's what they call the fight freeze flight state. Because of course, if you don't survive right now, then nothing else matters. However, secondary underneath that the next priority is long term survival, which one of the foundations of that is connection with others altruism, kindness and compassion, all of that those are instinct in us, those are natural things. And so when a person is feeling safe, and loved, so they're going to survive right now, the natural instinct is to reach out and help others and be generous and, you know, support others and connect with others. So, if someone is not in that state, if someone is not able to be compassionate and kind and generous, and helpful, it means their brain the unconscious part of their brain, regardless of what they consciously think the unconscious part of their brain is in a survival state. So and that can be difficult to see at first because to the brain, not being loved, not being respected, and not being, you know, acknowledged those kinds of things are the same as physical danger. So the same chemicals adrenaline, cortisol and other stress coming Calls are produced when we feel betrayed when we feel a hurt when we feel anxious, worried. So it puts the brain and body into that state, in and in every moment because the brain is referring to the childhood to find out is this experience right now is the safe or dangerous. And it doesn't always make conscious and logical sense because the unconscious part of the brain can't use logical reason. You have people who have plenty of money are very successful, and loved by a lot of people, but are still not generous are a steal, you know, worried that someone's going to take something from them. And that's because it's not about now it's coming from their childhood. So the brain is referring to a childhood where they weren't, they didn't receive the love they needed, they didn't feel safe, they didn't feel the affection, they needed, that kind of thing. 

10:55 

Wow. And so what comes to me about all that is, and what we just came through in the last three years, since 2020, is that people have been disconnected. They've not been around people, the Love's not been there, there's been so much fear, anxiety, and all those things coming up. So have you noticed in your, you know, in our, with your clients, and our, you know, promoting the book that people have are in a different place? And they're really, like hungry for this? Because I mean, I can see how they can be like, Oh, my gosh, yeah, I want to be connected. And I want I need to feel that self love. And have you noticed that Odile? 

11:28 

Absolutely, and I think that it highlighted a lot of, you know, a lot of the things that we took for granted before all of that happened. So, you know, you find people who were perhaps not really connected with their friends and family beforehand, as much or certainly some of them anyway, after your that kind of experience, where you're forced to, into into a situation where you can't be with each other physically, it kind of shines a spotlight on the value of that. On one hand, for some people, and then for others, the you know, there's a lot of fear, and a lot of stress and even trauma from certain people being put into that situation, because it triggered old references that were there before, but they hadn't been triggered before.

12:27 

Well, and I will tell you a whole other thing, too. It triggered me from past life stuff. Right? So it's not so for myself, it was not only this life, it was things that happen in especially my previous life. And so it all of it, you know, the things that were done to people and isolation, and it just totally triggered me in that sense. So it's multi layered, right? Oh, deal? 

12:49 

Absolutely, absolutely. There's so many contributing factors for each individual. 

12:55 

Definitely. So let's talk a little bit about the method that you use to support people. And I want to first take a little trip on through your book, because you've talked about the three pillars of your Remmers method. And it's really cool, I like the way you have it, like first is learning to drive, changing the GPS and staying on the road. And I just love that, that, you know, analogy of driving in my car and learning how to drive. So let's talk a little bit, I would love to hear your perspective of the three pillars. 

13:21 

Yes, of course. So if you think of wherever you are now, as is you're going to, you're going to drive from wherever you are now to the results you want to achieve. So whatever those changes are you want in yourself or your life, that's your destination, your new destination. So the first step, of course, is learning to drive which means learning to control your brain and body chemistry. And the reason that's important just like if you if you want to drive from one place to another, if you don't know how to drive the vehicle, you won't get very far. In the same way. One of the reasons people aren't able to achieve things they want to achieve is because they are at the mercy of whatever default system setting is going on with their brain and body chemistry. And so just very briefly behind that knowing what's what's happening behind that thoughts are connections between neurons in the neocortex of the brain. And as those connect those neural connections, tree automatically trigger chemicals matching chemicals. So put to put it very simply stress chemical, sorry negative thoughts trigger stress, chemicals, and positive thoughts trigger feel good chemicals like endorphins, serotonin and oxytocin. And as we as as those chemicals have the chemical the effects on the organs of the body, we experience those as feelings and emotions. And then the conscious mind gives reason to that identifies the feeling. So the tricky thing is that the stress chemicals that cause negative emotions are stronger than then feel good chemicals because they're for survival. So chemicals like adrenaline and cortisol are going to have a much bigger impact on the body, so we feel them stronger. And that's why it's easier to feel bad than to feel good. And of course, the reason is because it's more important that the brain makes sure we keep our attention on the bear that's going to attack us rather than on the pretty flowers or the sunset, so that we survive. So what we do is we teach this little exercise, it's under two minutes. And it's like a physical fitness routine, it trains and conditions your brain and body and helps you develop the skill to produce lower levels of stress chemicals, and higher levels of feel good chemicals. And the reason this is extra important is because one of the effects of stress chemicals on the system, is they cause blood to drain from the prefrontal cortex of the brain where we do our

cognitive thinking to the back of the brain for survival. So as the chemicals into the system, blood drains from the place of the brain where we do our you know, we we strategize problem solving, creativity, communication, all of that, so that it goes to the back of the brain, which is the fight freeze Flight Center. And again, because when you're faced with a bear, there's no time to negotiate or, you know, strategizing that you want to act instantly in the end immediately. So, that's why when we're emotionally triggered, we can't think clearly. So I'm sure we've all been in a situation where you've been triggered by someone in a situation. And it's only later that you think, ah, all the things I could have said, or I should have said. And that's because in that moment, you didn't have access to your cognitive thinking, physically, so that, you know, without the blood in that part of the brain, then later as the stress chemicals lowered, blood returned to that part of your brain. And that's why you were then able to think clearly. So this little exercise is it's under two minutes, would you like me to take you through it on that? Love that? Definitely. All right, lovely. So for this exercise, you will need something or someone you love. So it can be a pet or an animal that's not your pet, but you think they're cute, like penguins, or beavers, or a child, it needs to be something or someone with no negative attachment. So not someone you're worried about or missing, or no guilt or anything like that. Just love. And if you can't think of a personal animal, you can use a place. So some people use something like the Beach, Hawaii, the forest, or an activity you love, like gardening or surfing. So once you've got something that you love, wants you to take a deep breath, close your eyes. 

17:48 

And start by thinking of your favorite color. And if you don't have a favorite, just pick one you like. 

17:57 

And imagine being surrounded by that beautiful color. And focus in on everything you love about that particular color, and feel the feeling of that color, how gorgeous it is. Very good. And now what do you think of the person, animal place or activity that you love. And imagine holding them in your arms in a hug. And notice the feeling the physical feeling in your chest or solar plexus. And then imagine that feeling as a ball of light, or energy. And imagine it's spreading down to your toes up to the top of your head and out to your fingertips. So you're now full of that light, and energy, that love. Get job. And now imagine that light or energy radiating out from you, and filling the whole room you're in. And you can open your eyes. Congratulations, you just change your brain chemistry. So that's so also don't worry for those who couldn't feel it very strongly, or you couldn't feel it at all even. Don't worry about it because this is like physical exercise. So if the level of stress chemicals is already high in your system, because stress chemicals are stronger, it can take a little more practice and a little more time to switch that balance. So you start to feel the effects of the feel good chemicals. How was that for you, Teresa? 

19:46 

It was lovely. I feel very relaxed and I'll tell you what I also do your voice is beautiful. Oh, thank you. Oh my god, your voice is like angelic and I love your accent. Thank you You've heard that and um, you know, amidst the beautiful the, you know, journey you took me on. It was

and um, you know, amidst the beautiful the, you know, journey you took me on. It was wonderful. I love this Oh, 

20:07 

fantastic. And then what a very powerful level up on that is you so you can do the hugging your subject and the light and everything and then imagine yourself as a child in front of you. And imagine hugging that little you hugging that child that was you. That's a very, very powerful technique as well. I 

20:30 

love it so much. Well, I am absolutely thrilled you've come on today. Oh, Dale, what a lovely, lovely book, what a lovely, lovely service you're offering in the world, you and Steve also. And I am so thankful for you. So I want you to share a little bit about your services. And I know you have a gift for the podcast listeners and viewers today. So I'd love you to share that also. 

20:51 

Yes, of course. Thank you, Theresa. Well, we we work with one to one clients, but we also teach what we you know, we teach all of this. So everything that a person needs in order to be able to do this for yourself is in the book. So the book is available on Amazon and everywhere books are sold basically including audible, and when you so you can read through the book and follow along with the exercises and do that. We have a free ebook copy of the book, ebook version of the of the book for you, for your listeners, and you can get that by going to the remet method.com forward slash podcast gift or podcast gift if you're if you're American. Most people don't realize whatever I'm saying that the remet method.com forward slash podcast gift. And there's also a free workbook that you'll get to go with the ebooks so that you can follow along with that. And then if you go to our website, the remet method.com. There's also a free webinar on on the website as well, that can that'll take you through the basics of how childhood memories are affecting us. 

22:08 

Well, like I said, at the beginning of deal, I feel this is much needed, I feel it's timely, that there's a lot of people who can really benefit from this and who may want to a different avenue of going down it's versus therapy or shadow work or something else. So just that just that depth of you know, amazing neuroscience and psychotherapy combined together. It's beautiful. So thank you so much again for coming on today. 

22:30 

Thank you, Teresa, thank you so much for this for this opportunity. And I've loved our conversation you're wonderful to speak with.

22:36 

Thank you again for listening to another episode of enthusiastically spiritual what a gift Odell was for coming on today and sharing how amazing it is to work with neuroscience and a different aspect of healing that she and her husband, Steve are are bringing forth in their beautiful work so I thank you so very much. And again, thank you so much for listening and or watching on our YouTube channel. I appreciate each and every one of you so very much. And please remember if you've not subscribed, please do if you have like leave a comment I would appreciate it so very much. And also if you do enjoy this episode or other episodes, please share with your friends and family. And until next time, please remember that life is too short to not be enthusiastic about your unique journey.